I am Katherine
I am Nemetona
I am a cycle-breaker, a pattern-interruptor
I am a survivor, an alchemist, a creatrix
I am a Mama Bear, home educator, therapist
I am a coach, an advocate, an activist
I am a Priestess, an earth-keeper
I am a Weleda, a witch
I am a medicine wombman, wild wombman
I am a birth-keeper, wisdom-keeper
I am a dancer, a Yogini
I am celebrant, a space-holder
I am a blue ray, a violet flame
I am a tigress, warrior, she-wolf
I am a daughter, sister, friend, divine child
I am Maiden, Mother, Lover, Crone
I am Yellow Electric Sun, White Mirror
I am a Sea Goat
I am a servant of a new paradigm in which:
*women feel safe
*women are restfed
*women feel honoured and respected
*women have a right to choose according to what's right for herself and her family
*children are born gently and free
*children are nurtured and cherished as portals to cosmic intelligence and not labelled with 'disorders'
*state systems work for and on behalf of families
*the need for a balance of divine feminine and divine masculine is recognised
*the safety and highest good of all is held as sacred gnosis
I am Restfed
I am ME
So Hum
“I am a Real Life Doula.
I nurture women and families through all kinds of trauma and adversity.
I help them to create the conditions they need to thrive
so they can remember and restore their true essence,
soften into love, reclaim their voice, power and sovereignty,
and take radical personal responsibility.”
I spent a lifetime feeling unsafe, that it wasn’t ok to be me; that there was something inherently wrong with me.
I hid my true self, played small, self-abandoned, people-pleased, sought validation from others. This is a tragedy, a waste of precious life.
Thanks to my resiliance and my profound awakening healing journey, I have learned many tools and practices that enabled me to break the cycle of abuse, understand the legacy of trauma, shed the skins of conditioning, dismantle lies and coping strategies, re-parent my inner child, change my limiting beliefs and how to heal and home educate my daughter.
I am now in the humble and grateful position to share my skills, learning, wisdom and insight to help you.
I experienced trauma in childhood - now known as Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) from a study that began in 1994 by CDC & Kaiser Permanente.
I also experienced domestic abuse in several relationships from early adulthood, the most severe of which was during pregnancy, perpetrated by the biological father. This gave rise to birth and post-partum trauma. Both mysef and my daughter were at risk of death and an emergency c-section was performed.
The degree to which I'd been silenced since childhood manifested in vocal chord paralysis just after my daughter was born. I was unable to utter a sound for six months and and had to have speech therapy whilst trying to recover from the c-section with a baby that would not feed or sleep. I had zero emotional support at the time.
My daughter developed 'neurological disorders', had severe meltdowns and did not sleep for the first five years of her life. I instinctively knew, but for years we were turned away by the NHS. She's now been on the waiting list for ASD assessment for two years!
After 36 years of living with the legacy of childhood trauma, the pregnancy / birth trauma and my daughter's challenges pushed me over the edge. My sympathetic nervous system was in over-drive. I was physically, mentally and spritually exhausted. Unsurprisingly, I was diagnosed with a chronic health condition. I was bed-bound for extended periods when my daughter was 3yrs-6yrs old. I was forced to give up my beloved work as yoga teacher. I lost my sense of identity, I lost friends. My world shrank.
Here's where it gets even harder. I had no emotional support, as I was quite new to the area where we lived, and I had very little practical support. The only support available to me was largely from the very people who had abused me throughout my life. Of course this only served to perpetuate and compound the toxicity, co-dependency and classic trauma responses. Co-regulation then was impossible.
If that wasn't enough, I had to move house eight times in the first eight years of my daughter’s life because her biological father persisted in discovering where we lived each time. We lived with alarms on our doors and windows.
To further exacerbate matters, between 2012 and 2021, I was forced to endure two separate rounds of oppressive family court proceedings and deal with police investigations and sexual violence support workers. It’s fair to say that family court proceedings can be more traumatising than the original abuse.
There were times I felt sure we wouldn't survive. But we did. Something inside me refused to break. I instinctively knew I had to fight for myself and my daughter. The deepest part of me believed I was worthy of safety, love and peace, despite my external world showing evidence to the contrary.
I am your Real Life Doula; your safe, trusted, unconditional and reliable space holder at every stage of life and in all challenging life situations. I offer you tools and techniques that will regulate your nervous sytem and enable you to change your limiting beliefs and untether yourself from fear and trauma response.
I meet you where you are at and guide you to honour and accept where you are in life.
I help you to cultivate a sense of safety.
I help you to break the cycle of ancestral, generational, familial and personal trauma.
I help you to break the cycle of co-dependency in toxic and abusive relationships and create healthy boundaries.
I can help you to reframe neurodiversity challenges, both in terms of labelling a ‘disorder’ and the day-to-day coping strategies for you and your child(ren).
I help you to reframe and heal your own health challenges.
I help you to dismantle coping strategies developed in childhood that hold you back and keep you playing small
I help you to shed the old skins of conditioning and soften the calcified parts to reveal your true nature and align with your true purpose.
I help you to reclaim your birth-right, your voice, your power, your sovereignty, and ultimately take radical personal responsibility.
I invite you to partner up with me and help you to feel safe, free and proud to be YOU.
"I just wanted to update you, gosh that that last session has done so much for me. I just feel like I’ve come back to a part of myself…
I feel really alive today... It feels very profound."